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Post Graduation Script Deprivation

May 27, 2016 0 Comments

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When the joy of graduation wears off some graduates enter a period of confusion and malaise, unsure of themselves and unsure of what to do besides making sure they eat tomorrow. I believe one of the shocks these university graduates are experiencing is generated by the absence of a script. They’ve been living off of someone else’s script for years. And it may have served them well. They read the lines and made the grades. But now on this side of graduation there is no script for the drama called life!

 

Did you graduate recently? Perhaps you are experiencing script deprivation.

 

A script gives you a straight-line process or pathway for getting from “A” to “B.” Let’s say you figured out a few years ago, “I want to graduate with a degree in finance.” Then, you paid the school to take care of you by charting out the courses you needed to “get a degree in finance.” You succeeded! But now your point “B” looms “out there” and no one is going to chart the path for you. You are going to have to blaze your own path.

Look, you are not alone. By the time we finish 18 years of school most of us are conditioned to living on someone else’s script. We have had it all scripted for us. It went like this:

Go to school.
Take the classes.
Learn the material.
Pass the tests.
Graduate.


But now… 

There’s not a script for shaping a career.
There’s not a script for starting a business.
There’s not a script for being your own brand.
There’s not a script for creating a social life.
There’s not a script for building significant relationships.

 

Your friends have probably been living the same school script you were on, so they are not much help for living without a script.

 

But you do have some options:

  • Gather some mentors who have been living in uncharted waters for a while.
  • Plan a trip without tour guides and head out on an adventure.
  • Take some personal assessments to discover your genuine desires and strengths.
  • Make your grand life vision of success smaller by aiming at something contained in it (that’s usually called a goal) and then remind yourself, “Everything doesn’t have to be perfect!”
  • Attempt something related to your goal and as you do it, make a personal agreement with yourself that with the completion of each small step you will ask yourself again, “How did this go?” And, “What do I want to do next?”

Soon you will be living your own script and enjoying the rewards of living with purpose through your challenges.

Career, Change, Graduation

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Six Confessions of Successful University Graduates

May 19, 2016 0 Comments

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With all the ongoing talk about whether or not a college degree is worth the expense, it seems like good sense to ask college graduates how they are doing. Gallup has done that and more. Gallup now has collected loads of data on what healthy thriving people look like. And then, in a project called the Gallop-Purdue Index, Gallop asked  30,000 graduates how they were doing, what they did during college, and then referenced their answers to a health or well-being index.

It turns out, that what you do in the extra-curricular realm during college, is what may make the difference once you are graduated and living real life. The thriving graduates had six confessions in common. The more of these confessions in their assessment, the better they were likely doing in their career, finances, physical health, community engagement, and friendships. So what were these thriving graduates up to during college or university?

Here are the six confessions of graduates thriving after graduation:

  1. I had a professor who made me excited about learning.
  2. I had professors who cared about me as a person.
  3. I had a mentor who encouraged me to pursue my goals and dreams.
  4. I worked on a long-term project.
  5. I had a job or internship where I learned to apply what I was learning at school.
  6. I was extremely involved in extra-curricular activities.

Are you enrolled as a college student or hoping to be one? Going to college is expensive. Not making the most of the time may be more costly in the long-run. The issue here goes way beyond your grades. So what’s in your control as a student? You can research your professors and choose accordingly. You can look for mentors. You can volunteer for long-term projects in clubs and community organizations. You can participate in paid internships and co-ops. You can get involved in organizations where you have interests in order to grow and develop relationships.

Want to learn more about the study?

Follow these two links for articles on the Gallop-Purdue index:
http://qz.com/384713/college-is-worth-it-if-you-have-these-six-experiences/

http://www.gallup.com/opinion/gallup/182312/college-worth-depends.aspx

Are you a college graduate? How did you do more than follow the “academic” path laid out for you? Do any of these six confessions apply to you?

Career, Education, Graduation

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What am I going to do with my life?

May 13, 2016 0 Comments

No doubt there are lots of ways to tackle this question. If you are twenty you are probably asking it a lot. But you don’t have to know everything you are going to do. You just need something reasonable and purposeful to move towards. The joy, money, flow mix used by Chris Buillebeau may be useful to you as described in his new book, Born for This. Here’s an animated core message capturing Chris’ message.

And here’s the audio of a good interview of Chris with Brian Johnson.

I keep finding that you don’t have to be twenty to explore these issues again. I’ll never be twenty again but the intersection of “again” shows up for lots of reasons and if you pause there to thoughtfully explore and experiment, a new and fruitful enterprise may be just around the corner. I love the idea here that we all need to treat ourselves as “self-employed.” We each of the personal responsibility for developing our work (or some side-work) and keeping it meaningful. Its too easy to turn work or career into a life-sucking venture in greed. The benefit of this mix developed by Chris is that it acknowledges money in the mix but keeps joy — which relates to purpose large in our considerations.

Give it a try and connect with me to talk about it some more.

 

 

 

Career, Change

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How to ruin your network before you really get started.

May 13, 2016 0 Comments

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Here’s the scenario: you are looking for a job or looking for good advice on how to move forward on a problem or in an industry. Someone you trust, let’s call them your “connector,” has been listening and is willing to make a contact for you. A few days later or even the same day they send you an email with the contact information of a person in their network.

You see the email. What could you do next?

Well you could do nothing. Don’t do that.

Why? Because your connector has been working for you. More than likely something happened behind the scenes before your helpful friend sent you the email. Your connector reached out to their connection, asked about their availability and let them know that you would be contacting them. Now two people have put themselves out there for you.

When you do nothing. You leave them hanging and you leave them making up stories in their mind about you.

So what to do when you receive a contact. Here’s a suggested course of action.

  • Say thank you. Reply to the email and say, “Thank you.”
  • Reach out to the contact either by phone or email and introduce yourself. Be sure to mention the connector who helped you. Then make plans to correspond or meet up.
  • After you have met with the new contact say, “Thank you” to the contact. When you have applied their good advice do it again.
  • Be sure and thank the connector and let him or her know what the outcome or learnings where for you.

 

When you are starting out, cultivating and maintaining your network is essential. Neglecting this skill will hold you back. Most movement in career occurs because of a “friend of a friend” opens a door for you. Unfortunately doors get sticky on the shut side of life when good manners are neglected. Chart out your own course of action to express appreciation and acknowledge the “volunteered” effort of the connectors in your life.

 

 

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5 Reasons Your First Job Doesn’t Have to Be Awesome

May 25, 2015

Sometimes recent graduates from high school or from college can get stuck on the thought that their first job has to be awesome. Awesome pay. Awesome hours. Awesome people.

If you find yourself caught up in this kind of thinking its not going to help you move forward. Holding onto these expectations of awesomeness may cause you to miss out on great opportunities.

A first job doesn’t have to be awesome. A first job, even one that doesn’t pay a lot, gives you more than a paycheque; it gives you  opportunities to:

 

1.  Build up your work ethic. Show up, ready, on time. Learn how to bring a good attitude, even when you don’t have it. In other words you learn to be professional.

 

2. Figure out how to relate to a boss. You are going to have to figure out what your employer wants and how to deliver good service without losing your soul and identity to their good days and bad days.

 

3. Develop your people skills. Learn how to relate to customers or clients, fellows employees or work group members. Get to know what happens inside of you in a variety of situations.

 

4. Learn how to add value to an organization or company by aligning yourself with its mission and values.

 

5. Earn some money and learn how to pay the bills.

 

Finally, its a plus, when your first job gives you the opportunity to develop new skills and knowledge sets that can add to your career development. It’s possible to be more than a “cog in the machine.” As you settle in and show yourself to be responsible, ask for and accept responsibilities. That’s when a first job becomes awesome.

 

 

Career, Work

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